Haha…Just kidding. Kind of…Although,
I tried to figure out my “type” while talking with some friends last year, and
we worked out that I like tall skinny British men. So I guess it’s fairly
accurate :~) Especially since ten and eleven were two of the people we were referring to...
As you have probably guessed, today's post is about the kind of guy that attracts me.
I guess I like guys who are
well balanced in their masculinity. I definitely couldn’t deal with a guy who
makes me feel like the man in the relationship. He has to be manlier than me.
Which, the way guys are going, is getting hard to find. Not that I am all that
masculine, but I am not scared of bugs or the dark or many things in general. I
have had guys try to get me to smash bugs for them, end up nearly in tears
because I was holding a snake (completely harmless Garter snake, not something
that would do any sort of damage) near them and they were afraid that it would
jump on them or something, and be nervous to go outside in the dark just
because it was dark out. Not for any good reason, such as there were panthers
outside, or a madman with a chainsaw (that we knew of). Of course, I’m also no
interested in the kind of guy who is all “Sports, cars, hunting, blah blah blah…”
It’s totally possible to be manly without being all macho. The ability to do
basic household and car maintenance, build a fire, things like that, those are
good skills for anyone, male or female, to have, and I think it’s something
that most boys don’t learn growing up anymore, and they are things that men
should know how to do.
I like educated men. Not necessarily
those who have gone to college (though I am not anti-college. It would be
pretty hypocritical if I only liked guys who went to college since I’ve not
been), but a guy who can read well and carry on an intelligent conversation and
who knows what he is talking about because he forms his own opinions rather
than simply going with what other people say.
Musical is a big positive.
That cliché is very true. And tall…I mean, musical and tall, those things are
sort of shallow. But they’d be nice. I thought for a while, when I liked a guy
I knew in Brazil, that I’d be ok with someone shorter than me, but I have
changed my mind. And who knows. Maybe one day I will eat those words. But
taller is definitely a huge plus. I'm not terribly bothered about eye or hair colour. I'm usually not big on blue eyes, but it's not a deal-breaker either way. I've met people that I find very attractive only to decide that I think they're physically ugly when I find out what jerks they are. And I have met people that I do not find attractive until I learn what wonderful people they are. It isn't a conscious decision, just something that happens.
I’ve found that I am not interested
in guys who talk big. You know, the kind who say, “When I reach this point in
my life, I’ll be able to do this thing that I’ve always want to do.” and then
never actually do anything to reach that point. I realize that reaching your
life goals isn’t something that will come immediately, but you have to be
trying for them.
And lastly, a guy who wants
to go on adventures. And not even anything big. An adventure can be hiking
through the woods on a snowy, moonlit night. An adventure can even be going and
volunteering somewhere or doing a mini road trip. But sitting around watching
tv isn’t good enough by far.
I used to go to a church that
did the whole “make a list of what you’re looking for in a husband” thing. I
now think that is kind of nonsense. A lot of people would miss out on the right
guy if they did that and stuck to their lists. But there are things that are
important to each person that aren’t negotiable. And they’ll be different for
everyone. For example, I had a friend tell me once that he’d found that women
tend to go for more feminine men. And this was something he’d seen many times.
So perhaps I am a bit of an odd one in saying that I would be far more
interested in someone less feminine. But these are some of the specific things
which are a big deal for me. I’m sure I could think of more, but this is
probably enough.
I was going to end the post with a few photos of the guys I find physically attractive, but decided that would probably be a little bit shallow :~) So I'll just end it by saying that I am pretty sure I have very unrealistic expectations for men (personality wise...), and for now, this picture rings pretty true:
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